I don't want to rant too much, and I don't know if this has been discussed before (sorry if it has) but this will be my first post ever on a forum like this so bear with me.
I think the whole "Body Positivity" thing is actually a net loss for chubby chasers and cancer overall, let me explain:
I have been traveling a lot for my new job lately and been seeing different types of bigger women all over Europe and beyond.
Currently in Turkey (different flag might show because of VPN), not too many fatties here but they still dress to hide their bodies, as you would see most girls do 10-15 years ago. Body positivity apparently isn't a thing here yet.
While dating bigger girls before the body positivity hype had its problems, the *artificial* confidence that this social media movement has created has also brought with it a new set of problems, which are much harder to deal with and also much cringier.
It used to be that you simply had to convince a girl that you unironically like her body (whether you're into feederism or just an FA).
Nowadays big girls feel entitled to be sexually attractive to anyone, which is of course ridiculous, and it would be equally ridiculous to "force" anyone on this forum to find stick-figure girls attractive.
The short-term benefits of this for us is that we get to see a lot of fatties in tight clothes on either dating apps or pubs or clubs or out in the street, it's great eye candy.
On the other hand however, it is usually these girls, (same type who will post about their gain on TikTok but never even heard of the kink) who are also the most toxic about how it is other people are "supposed" to treat.
It's true you shouldn't shit on somebody for their weight, at least in most contexts, but if you go preach about that stuff in a gym, a workout group, sports club, school or otherwise then you shouldn't complain about the obvious backlash.
They can post whatever they want on their social media feeds, but the amount of times I've been on dates with bigger girls and unironically heard that this stuff should be normalised is breath-taking, not to mention extremely cringy. (again, not even kink-related, just their standard obesity).
At the end of the day, only chubby chasers will like and/or sexually desire chubby girls, that is not something that any movement will ever be able to change.
My dating experience has been pretty chaotic lately due to moving around a lot, so I haven't been able to find something stable yet but I'm starting to feel as if I'm dating the same types of girls over and over again, having the same kinds of conversations and getting the same kind of milquetoast, basic-bitch answers that sound more like instagram posts about how you should be "proud" of your stretchmarks rather than hide them away.
P.S.
I don't want any autists to willingly misunderstand what I'm trying to get across, but just to be clear, I'm not saying they should be ashamed or hide away or any of that stuff, but everybody needs to understand that liking bigger bodies is, at the very least, very unusual, and that most people find them unattractive, and forcing them accept something they are disgusted by will only bring up more backlash, more bickering and more cringe.