>>42289Well there are certain aspects of your personality and the way your brain operates that allow for certain fetish to develop. It's like a puzzle piece that's fits in the right holes. past experiences that are ingraned in your subconscious also shape your day to day behaviour at all times, you might have had a emotionally distant relationship with your father, you naturally try to compensate by seeking validation with some sort of coping mechanism that develops. Those are daddy issues and that directly translates to some very common fetishes. In my case i'm drawn to feedism for a bunch of reasons cause i've been trying to figure out what exactly those are for idk how long now, but one of them is control. Feeders like to have control to the extend that they want to shape the body of their lover, be directly responsible for that change. If feedees become fatter they will be less desireable for most other men so they become more and more "owned" by their feeder in a way. I stuggled with a sense of lack of control, my life being dictated around me eventhough i wanted to shape my own life. Hence a coping mechanism develops and becomes part of your personality. And while you might not even know it such mental mechanisms shape everything you do. you're a product of the world around you.
Desire for control translates to fetishization of the concept and now you've unknowingly found found the puzzle piece fetish that fits your inner most desires. Sexuality is connected to the deepest most instinctual part of the subconcious. I believe freud called it the id. that's why it's often so hard to rationalize.
Fetishes are basically a gateway into the subconcious and can help figure out what shapes you as a person.
To me it makes no sense why the hell i would find a stupid fat and sloppy american hot. Only when i think about it in a deeper way it makes sense.