>>43341> I still remember day it all clicked and I realized I liked big women. Look, I know if I wanted to I could have a skinny gf, but don't find non-BBWs attractive. I don't know what to tell you.what kind of big women? mostly pears and hourglasses, right?
> It's only easy, if you let it be easy. Having said that, no. I'm not after an easy fuck. I'm after a stable monogamous marriage.a lot of us don’t “let” it be easy, we just get fed promises by people who say they’ll be there and ditch once they get what they’re really after ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
> Everyone has issues, that's part of life. But if you love someone, you work together. ideally, yes. however, a lot of dudes leave at the slightest inconvenience for me to believe this is a common practice. my last boyfriend said “do you think i’m gonna leave you just because i might not like what i see?” and then ghosted days after my birthday lol
> Stigma? Could care less what other people think of me.very few people are like you though.
> Jokes from friends? My best friend knows, and doesn't joke about it. There was one guy I did business with that did, keyword "did business". I don't use his services anymore.good on you for sticking up for big women! but again, very few people are like you.
> Health Stuff? Many couples deal with Health stuff, and it's not necessarily from weight. Again If you care about someone, you stand by them. The idea is, in a relationship, you help people with the things they can't do and vice-versa.see above.
> Bullying? I'm sorry you were bullied. If it means anything, I was too. It's not fun.no, it isn’t. but there were other chubby kids at my school and the people who teased me were usually also chubby or otherwise unattractive so i didn’t really care, it was finding online communities dedicated to eating disorders slightly later in my teenage years that did more damage. and extended family members body shaming me.
> Why? There are plenty of beautiful darker skinned big women out there. There's even non-dark skin guys that want to date them if that's what you are getting at.the keyword here is beautiful :)
oh and what’s seen as stunning and brave or cute and quirky for White women isn’t always seen the same way for Black women - women like Tess Holliday and the Feabie mean girls (who are mostly White and very attractive) are pushed to the forefront of the movement while people look at me and think “of course” and disregard me as just another ratchet
> Don't get hung up on this. Some of those "admirers" are just really thirsty guys who will DO ANYTHING for a woman to notice them. It's not the same as a real flesh and blood relationship. It's fake. Like how porn is fake.okay but it’s still annoying as fuck when these women preach to me about how amazing being fat is, like, of course you would feel better about yourself if you had hundreds of guys telling you how beautiful and right you are all the time. tired of them acting like we all have the same opportunities and outcome just because we’re fat
also annoying when their fans attack other women to please their queen
> Hey, I know it hurts. I just want a nice BBW wife who I can give/get affection from.i really do hope you find her. you seem very supportive.
>>43342> Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some people might not find you beautiful true, but to other's you just might be a hidden gem.dude. i have jowls and bug eyes. nobody thinks i’m a “hidden gem” lmao not every big woman is beautiful and you know it
>>43343>> Bonus rant: attraction in a real life relationship way probably has less to do with being a physically 'correct' person, like having an attractive body, rather, just your energy and how you carry yourself. If youre someone can be approachable and friendly and firm enough to establish yourself, or at least aspire to those traits, then youre more attractive in the way that counts then a vast majority of people on this sitethe vast majority of people on this site are here for models who look nothing like me. and i don’t blame them, we all have our fantasies, right? but let’s not kid ourselves with the “personality” cope. i see posts from guys here all the time that point out the difference between a BBW and average fat girl (unkempt, apple-shaped, plain looks) and the posters have no desire to date the latter category of woman. which again, is fine, i just want honesty you know?
> also i'd argue the 'body positivity'/blind acceptance crowd has little overlap with the group of people who would call themselves "in the fats community" whether they value fat people as a fetish, value them in feeder relationships or simply enjoy them in bedmeh
> also also if you dont mind me asking what you find atttractive in the 'muscular guy' department. Im personally looking to up my game and could use advicesee the attached pic. i kinda didn’t wanna tell you because i don’t want you to feel like you have to look a certain way. i know my ideals are very unrealistic for the average guy and i don’t want to force anyone into meeting them, and i’ve been with men who don’t look like this.
i just really like beef (and desperately wish Miguel O’Hara was real.)
>>43348> Why not? I know the overused comeback is "why do you like brown hair?" Or "why do you like glasses?" And while I'll admit those aren't exact comparisons, it really is just is a trait a lot of us find appealing for whatever reason.but there’s so many different shapes and proportions under the umbrella of fat
> For me, I have several theories as to why I latched onto this preference (finding softness soothing, the fact that early on in life the girls who liked me were heavier, admiring confident BBWs who are secure in their body image, as a skinny guy who has fought a lot of insecurity in that realm etc.), but at the end of the day, a guy's reason is his reason alone :)this is really wholesome, i’m actually happy you’ve had good experiences with big ladies! :3
>>43354> I'm 26, 390lbs and I love it. Men AND women swoon over me and I fell sexy as fuck. I'm in excellent health and I travel all the time. Whats not to love?could i ask what you do for a living? is travelling part of your work? sounds like you’re one of those BBWs everyone seems to love.
>>43370> Nice bait browell… i am quite the master baiter