I don’t have any one in my personal life I feel like I can talk to about this so I’m gonna ask follow people on this site that also have a fat fetish. I obviously love fat chicks. But I love them so much that I want to be one. Is that weird? Is it weird that I want to be a girl and start gaining weight cuz I love fat chicks so much? If I could turn into a woman rn I would 100%. I really want to be fat but I’m a guy. 400 lb guys aren’t attractive. Couldn’t make this thread without a pic so that’s what the fall wallpaper pic is. But my mental health has been struggling because of this and I really don’t know what to do.

Definitely feel that way sometimes. Have fantasies about being a fat girl and gaining a bunch of weight. Maybe play around with pillows and padding to get your fix.

I'm not a therapist, but I've been married to one long enough to know you should try to find someone you can talk to, to help you think you through this.

>>20851 (OP)
do you have a discord? i’ve definitely struggled with my gender and i would recommend finding a therapist to talk to about gender issues; it helps to seek out gender affirming therapy for those types of thoughts because you can really find someone who has worked in the lgbtq+ community for years and can help you work through those types of thoughts.

omg i have, for years and years, felt exactly the same way! turns out i'm trans LMAO

>>20851 (OP)
When I was 16-17 I had similar thoughts, and it was fucking with me too. Ultimately though, you just have to take a step and weigh up the situation. Take this with a grain of salt as I'm not a therapist or anything like that

Do you think this because you want to go through with the day-to-day and lifelong consequences being trans and gaining a fuckton of wieght. Or is this something you only think about because it gets your dick straight. Imagine your day-to-day routine in a few years time as an obese tranny and the implications it will likely have on your standard of life, and if your guts feeling is some kind of dread or disgust, its probably better to keep this to fantasy.

Maybe transitioning is the path for you, but don't let it be guided by your dick. Your life is so much more than what turns you on.

It's just your mind pulling a rib on you, look up AGP. That's what happens from too much porn

>>20851 (OP) not meaning to be dismissive at all of your dysphoria, or to suggest that it isn't possible you may in fact be trans, but as a person who has lived his entire life with an extreme fat fetish, I'll just say that because the fat/feedist fetish can be so absolutely all-consuming and intense, it can, like other obsessive fetishes, manifest itself as a desire to embody the object of your fetish, simply as a way of getting more of the thing you crave so intensely.. That is not the same thing as being trans or wanting to be a woman. Because if I'm reading you correctly, you don't want to live your life as a female- you want to be a FAT woman, in a specifically sexualized way. Your obsession, in other words, may be with feminine fat, rather than with being a woman.

My main advice would be to have a dialogue with yourself about the barriers between fantasy and reality. Consensual roleplay could also be a good way to scratch the itch. I agree with those who have suggested therapy- though I think there's a high risk in that scenario of being misunderstood (ours can be a tough fetish for people, even mental health professionals, to grasp). But if what you're trying to ascertain is whether or not you are actually struggling with true gender dysphoria, you should talk to a qualified professional.

yet another case of the mods letting this shit outside of /gen/

Good luck with it all.

>>20851 (OP)
I've had feelings like that. When I was younger I would stuff my pajamas with pillows to simulate legs, belly, butt, boobs, etc. It was a phase for me, though tbh the idea still excites me. The joke is that I have a super-heavy beard (5 o'clock shadow at 10 AM), very broad shoulders and chest and skinny legs, etc. so I'd make a really bad woman.

Transexual folks get all the press these days but there is such a thing as transvestism, where you don't so much want to be a woman as embody one. A lot of "trannies" are gay but there are straight ones as well. Maybe get yourself some plus-sized lingerie and clothes, either make or acquire the requisite padding, and try a little dress-up. That might be the outlet you're looking for.

>>20851 (OP)

Definitely seek out a therapist in your area if you can. Like other people have recommended, try finding someone with experience with gender and LGBTQ+ issues. I would also try to find someone comfortable talking about sex and kink stuff. Not all therapists are going to get this fetish, but some totally will.

Also, plenty of people find 400 lb guys attractive. Probably nearly as many as find 400 lbs women attractive. I get off to picturing myself weighing 400, 500, 600 lbs all the time. And I get off to SSBBW porn and SSBHM porn too.

Thank you all for the advice. I think the porn is just getting to my brain. It would be great being an ssbbw but I should keep that as a fantasy, focus on my life and not let porn get to my head and ruin my body. I’ll try and reach out to a therapist for additional help too but thank you all so much.

Thank god I’m not the only one

Tbh I think it’d be cool to be able to transform into women like DestinyBBW, BC Skylar, Littleyellow spider, etc. but I wouldn’t want to permanently be a fat woman. I prefer to be myself majority of the time I totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve never been fat but I’ve always wondered what it feels like to jiggle your own belly, problem is I don’t want to be a fat guy same as you so I don’t gain weight

You could try taking a break from porn. Porn is basically a hardcore drug like meth, it could be fucking with your head in ways that you don't really understand.

>>20871 100% agree. Sounds like OP may just be ODing on the stuff.

You’d be amazed how quickly your head clears when you take a strategic break.

There is a final solution to your woes in general, OP. ☦️☦️☦️

Can nobody in this community, if you can call it that, just be fucking normal for five minutes?

I would say that a lot of this stuff has to do with norms and body image and beauty and psychology maybe

I can’t tell what you should do but I would advise you most of all to “know yourself” and to clarify what your goals and desires are

>>20854

Anon, wanting to be the hot girls you jerk off to in depraved porn does not make you trans. You are only going to make OP get worse with this disingenuous advice, as well as opening up the trans community to coomers with an AGP kink (more so than it already is). If OP were trans he'd want to be a woman and not just the kind of woman he jerks off to. >>20862

>>20851 (OP)
I kinda feel ya man cuz I’ve had those thoughts too but I don’t think going trans would fix that cuz imo trans people look really weird or inhuman as the gender they transitioned to. I do imagine if I was born a full on girl and feeling the fat belly and boobs and whatnot would be so nice. But I’m this life you and me are both dudes so I think the best thing we could do is to find a woman like that or just look at them on the internet.

I think you probably have to interrogate yourself a little here. If you were to transition to being a woman, but you were unable to gain/maintain your ideal weight, would you still be more satisfied than you are now? If your answer is yes, you might be trans.

I'm FTM personally and while I have an image of what I want to look like, I'm aware that I might not ever get there. Regardless, I want to try because *anything* masculine of center would be an improvement for me psychologically.